Let’s all give an underwhelmed golf clap to our first ever male guest blogger! He’s asked that I protect his identity so as not to out him or his ex-lady-friend, so I hope we’ll all welcome ‘Brucey Johnson’ (that was the best he could come up with)…
Is She The “One?”
Last year, I met a gorgeous blonde at a Christmas party. She caught my eye when I walked in and I made it a point to talk to her later in the night. We went on our first date six days later and the rest was history. At some point, all the other women in my life (Mother, aunts, cousins, best friend’s mothers, close girl-friends), realized that I was maturing and crazy about her. I am not sure what goes on in a woman’s mind (no straight man is), but one thing is for certain. All of them asked me, “Is she the one?” I would be lying if I said I had not thought about that. However, I was not ready to talk about it, so I brushed the question off with a standard response, “I’m 26 and there is no rush.”
Last week, I found myself having a tough conversation with her that ultimately ended in a break-up. Breaking up is terrible and extremely painful. However, this break-up has been worse than others. The question I avoided from the most important females in my life is continually playing in my mind. I wish it was a simple question to answer. However, it is not so black and white. There are many things I adore about her, but like always there are some clashes. Every relationship is going to have some clashes. The question is, can both individuals live with the clashes or come to common ground.
At the end of the day, I need to put my faith in the cliché saying “if it is meant to be, it will.” Pain may lie ahead, but I am willing to endure the pain if it results in happiness for both of us down the road.
Note from Ms. Betwixter:
Thanks for being so honest and thoughtful Brucey. I think anyone who’s been in a successful or failed relationship would agree with you that there are always going to be things that you question and wonder when is it okay to compromise, and when you might be settling. If you want another cliche’ Brucey, ‘time heals all wounds’ and we Betwixters are eager for a follow-up when you’re healed and optimistic about a new blonde.