I’m not a huge fan of cliches, but I’ve got to say that this one serves a rightful place in the lives of anyone who dates. Why is it that when one is single, they either have an onslaught of people asking them out, or none at all. I’ve found this to be the case for me as well as for my friends and peers.
I’m going to tell you all a little story (and pray that the guy in it never sees this post)…
Once upon a time I took a date to the u2 concert. During the date, he and my female friend went off to get some beers, leaving me with my female friend’s non-date guy friend. To give a little bit of background, this non-date friend of hers and I had known each other on-and-off for about a year. After they were out of sight, non-date friend moves over next to me, looks me in the eyes, and says, “I’m not telling you this because I’m drunk, but I’ve liked you since we first met and I think we should go out.”
Worried that my actual date would return (but also excited by his admission as I’d secretly been interested, as well), I replied, “Well, lucky for you I’m not that into this guy, so when are you free next week?”. Ok, I admit that was somewhat of a guy move to make (sorry guys, but you know it’s true). How standard is it that only when I appear unavailable does said non-date friend share his year-long feelings. Guys: may I ask why this is? He couldn’t choose any other day to ask me out?
Suddenly I went from one to two guys in the matter of a concert set list. It’s too bad that this is a pattern because it would be a lot easier to date one person after another, not two at the same concert, 2 seats apart.
For any interested parties, I never saw my date again, but did start to see the non-date friend….for a bit. Now guess where I am? Too busy to date and also not getting asked out, probably because I’m not going out with someone else. Viscous cycle I tell you.